The Mentality of Abuse

In the past few years, I've written several posts on church bullies and abuse (also here).  These two topics overlap and I've studied them on and off for some time.  Another resource that has to do with these topics is Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy… Continue reading The Mentality of Abuse

How Church Bullies Deceive Us

I originally wrote this post one year ago (November, 2015), but it is still very relevant today.  I'm re-posting it with the hopes and prayers it will help Christ's church even in some small way! ---- Sadly, there is such a thing as a church bully.  He’s the guy who manipulates, pressures, blames, and coerces… Continue reading How Church Bullies Deceive Us

How Church Bullies and Abusers Deceive Us

Sadly, there is such a thing as a church bully.  He’s the guy who manipulates, pressures, blames, and coerces people to follow his ideas or agenda (for example, see what happened to Peter in Galatians 2:12).  This kind of person is very similar to an abusive husband (or wife – but most of the time… Continue reading How Church Bullies and Abusers Deceive Us

An Abuser’s Mentality

Many of us know people that are manipulative, abusive, and unstable yet put on a good façade and trick many people (even in the church).  Good questions arise: what is the mentality of an abusive person?  How can we spot him?  What type of thinking, speaking, and acting do abusers display?  Jeff Crippen and Anna… Continue reading An Abuser’s Mentality

The Unbiblical (and Common!) Way to Handle Reports of Abuse in the Church

In their helpful book on abuse in the church, Jeff Crippen and Anna Wood give an outline of what typically (and sadly!) happens when a victim goes to her pastor for help.  In other words, the following is an outline of how abuse is sometimes swept under the rug in Christian churches.  Why am I… Continue reading The Unbiblical (and Common!) Way to Handle Reports of Abuse in the Church