The Unbiblical – and Common!! – Way to Handle Reports of Abuse in the Church

(This is a repost from October, 2014) In their helpful book on abuse in the church, Jeff Crippen and Anna Wood give an outline of what typically (and sadly!) happens when a victim goes to her pastor or church leadership for help.  In other words, the following is an outline of how abuse is sometimes… Continue reading The Unbiblical – and Common!! – Way to Handle Reports of Abuse in the Church

On Supporting an Abused Woman (Bancroft)

This is a book you should have on your shelves if you need a helpful resource on abuse: Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Specifically, this is a book that discusses the various aspects of abusive men. For example, it goes into the abuser's mentality, the different types of abusive men, his patterns,… Continue reading On Supporting an Abused Woman (Bancroft)

Dangers of Overemphasizing Women’s Submission (Miller)

Last year I read Rachel Miller's helpful book "Beyond Authority and Submission." A friend of mine who appreciated it mentioned it to me yesterday and that made me remember a blog post I did on it awhile back. This topic is near and dear to my heart because I know Christian women who have suffered… Continue reading Dangers of Overemphasizing Women’s Submission (Miller)

The Mentality of an Abuser

Many of us know people that are manipulative, abusive, and unstable yet put on a good façade and trick many people (even in the church).  Good questions arise: what is the mentality of an abusive person?  How can we spot him?  What type of thinking, speaking, and acting do abusers display?  Jeff Crippen and Anna… Continue reading The Mentality of an Abuser

Marriage Conflict and Separation

 No marriage is perfect.  Husbands and wives sin.  Every marriage has at least some conflict from time to time.  I probably don't need to explain this fact since most of us know it from experience!  Sadly, however, some marriage conflict is destructive and dangerous.  There are husbands that emotionally and physically abuse their wives and… Continue reading Marriage Conflict and Separation