The Bible speaks of marriage as something God instituted for the good of humanity. Even before the fall, it was good that man (Adam) and woman Eve) were united. Christians should uphold the biblical teaching of marriage, for sure. However, marriage isn’t at the center of the Christian faith. An unmarried person who follows Jesus is no less important than a married person who follows Jesus. It’s not more biblical or “Christian” to be married. I appreciate how Rachel Miller discusses this:
“…Marriage is a great blessing. There’s a great need to defend a biblical understanding of marriage. But if conservative Christian teaching makes marriage too hard and expects too much from it, there’s a real danger of making marriage into an idol – ‘a good thing turned into an ultimate thing,’ in the words of Tim Keller.
Marriage is a good thing, but it’s not an ultimate thing. When we make marriage our highest calling – our focus in life and in the church – we set ourselves up for disappointment and heartache. We weigh ourselves and others down with impossible standards and unrealistic expectations.
By God’s grace, our salvation is secure in Christ, regardless of our marital status. Marriage isn’t the gospel. It isn’t what saves us. It isn’t what gives our lives meaning. It isn’t what makes us holy. It isn’t what fulfills us. Whether we are married, divorced, single, widowed, or separated, we are called to serve God and to glorify Him wherever and however we are able.”
Covenant Presbyterian Church (OPC)
Hammond, WI, 54014