…Things Wives Need From Their Husbands

I found this book by accident: 52 Things Wives Need From Their Husbands by Jay Payleitner. But it was a good accident, because I really enjoyed the book! It’s not a biblical-theological or systematic discussion of Christian marriage, but it is full of practical and biblical wisdom on how husbands can become better husbands.

In around 170 pages and 52 short chapters, Payleitner gives much helpful advice to husbands about how to love and serve their wives in many ways. Among others, the following topics are discussed: communication, hobbies, sex, prayer, trust, attraction, presents, dates, trials, arguments, apologies, sacrifice, leadership, finances, and so on. I appreciated how these topics are common ones in common marriages. In other words, almost all of the 52 chapters were relevant to different aspects of my own marriage and life as a Christian husband (including the humor that sometimes happens in marriages!).

Here are a few of the lines I highlighted:

“Loving your wife sacrificially means putting her well-being before your own when it comes to your time, energy, resources, creativity, and even your will” (p. 44).

“If you do something stupid, apologize” (p. 98).

“When it comes to silly little quirks and shortcomings (of your wife), choose to be amused rather than annoyed” (p. 22).

Here are the titles of a few chapters I appreciated:

Wives Need Their Husbands to 6) Hit Bottom Together.
Wives Need Their Husbands to 18) Only Have Eyes For Her.
Wives Need Their Husbands to 50) Make Them Beautiful.

Men: if you’ve been married for 10 or 30 years, or if you’re currently engaged, or if you just need easy to read helps, reminders, and tips to become a better Christian husband, I recommend this book: 52 Things Wives Need From Their Husbands. Again, it isn’t a theological discussion of marriage, but it is a practical resource for husbands who want to build a stronger Christian marriage. (As a bonus, I’m pretty sure your wife [or future wife] would want you to read this and be happy if you’d listen to Payleitner’s advice!)

Shane Lems
Hammond, WI