I very much appreciate this emphasis on the importance of the Christian church for Christian marriage. It is found in chapter one of Love That Lasts by Gary & Betsy Ricucci.
“Simply put, Jesus is building his church (Matthew 16:18; Ephesians 4:15-16), and the local church is the biblical home for Christian marriage, the indispensable context where love and marriage are to be lived out. Without the church we will be squeezed inexorably into the world’s mold.”
“Most couples in our society have grown up breathing the cultural air of a husband’s independence and a wife’s feminism. Keeping our own counsel; pursuing our own goals, gratification, and fulfillment; hiding our struggles, weaknesses, and problems; being self-sufficient and self-absorbed – it’s all second (sinful) nature to us. While this may make for some great executives, entertainers, athletes, and marketers, it makes for terrible marriages. We need others not only beside us but ahead of us and even over us. There is no room in Scripture for Lone Ranger spouses. …A couple who commits to a local church begins to put to death proud and dangerous independence.”
“The church is the place where marriages are fed and supported with truth. The local church is God’s primary context for the teaching and application of God’s Word. …If you truly want to mature as a husband or wife, if you want your spouse to spiritually thrive, if you want to see your family nurtured into the truth, the local church is your God-given context.”
“…The church is the place where marriages are helped in seasons of need. In every marriage there are times of trial, struggles with sin, and seasons of suffering. The loss of a job, a significant illness or injury, a financial crisis, persistent patterns of sin in one or both spouses – there are many ways in which serious trials can assault a marriage. It is at these times that our brothers and sisters in the local church embody the love of Christ to us.”
“…Regardless of the cultural whirlwind around us, it is the local church – Christians living a shared life biblically before God and one another – that will ultimately secure the place and role of marriage and family from generation to generation.”
I agree. The most biblical Christian marriages are those that are lived out in the life of a local church. Get this book, Love That Lasts, if you want to study this aspect of marriage in more detail. And in case you’re interested, the entire book is very much worth reading as well.